I learn so much from my boys. Being a mother has taught me so much about life and even more about myself. Here’s a little glimpse into some things that I’m learning: How to be more patient, I’m not the only one that can do it, I need to be patient as others are learning. Understanding the feelings that surround unconditional love – nothing that my boys do will keep me from loving them. Forgiveness is for everyone, even me. Give, Give, Give, but don’t lose yourself in the process. Selfishness is something that we are born with, that’s what I think anyway ~ the journey of our life experiences allows us to start seeing the needs of others.
A couple of months ago, I overheard my boys talking. Zane said to Zach, “Zach, would that put a smile on His face?” I can’t remember now exactly what they were doing or talking about, but I tuned in and thought to myself, this is interesting, WHO is Zane talking about? Then I heard Zach respond, “Probably not.” I couldn’t help to ask, “Zane, would it put a smile on who’s face?” He said, “God’s face, mom.” I took a step back and thought, ok – you’re 7 – I’ve never said that before, where did you learn that? I asked them. They said at the same time “school”. YES!! They are learning at school – YIPEE!!
This is the first year that our boys have gone to a private Christian school – each day they start their day with a short chapel service. They sing songs – put on the full armor of God – receive a biblical lesson through other classmates or a teacher – pray and then start their day. I LOVE it!! I frequently go to chapel with them on Thursday mornings and each time I leave there I feel overwhelmed with God’s blessings.
Does it put a smile on God’s face? I love that question. After I overheard my boys talking about it – I decided, hey, that is for ME! That question is one I need to ask myself frequently in EVERY area of my life. So, that’s what I’ve started doing. I know it sounds silly and very elementary, but I’m doing it!!
By asking myself this question, I’m seeing things differently. I’m thinking before I speak. My thoughts are more pure. The actions that I take have meaning – my desire is to put a smile on God’s face!!
I was amazed by the response I got from a friend the other day when I actually spoke this to her through a text message, I know it sounds strange, speaking through a text, but let me share with you what happened. I received a text from a friend basically inviting me into gossip. Her text went something like this……..i ran in2 “jane” she said that “jan” had become a stuck up snot, blah, blah, blah………….My response was this………..what ive heard or any thoughts that I have regarding “jan” would not put a smile on God’s face so I will refrain from that conversation ……..then I changed the subject in the remainder of my text. The next day when we actually spoke on the phone, she told me that she respected my response and it made her actually think about what she was thinking or saying.
I’m NOT telling this story to pat myself on the back, or put myself on a pedestal ~ BELIEVE ME I know that I screw up all the time and have a lot to work on in my life. I simply wanted to share the concept. Who in this life are we aiming to please? Are we putting a smile on God’s face? Consider asking the question………